Self proclaimed LONELINESS

“I am not alone, because my LONELINESS always accompanies me.”

Whenever you will make a search on google for pics on loneliness you will definitely see this above mentioned line. Before i write further, i would like to ask two questions here. Well, my first question, will you ever make such a search? And second if yes, then why? Did it strike in your mind when you read the second line of my post about the search that why in the world anyone would search for pics on loneliness? Ahhhhh…. My friends people do that. I too did. Well, in my case i did because i needed a pic for my post. Now, if others do for the same reason as i did then it’s normal, but if their reason differs from mine then it is a matter of concern. As no one in this world loves to be lonely. No one wants to live alone. But, still many of us have found a really good companion in loneliness. Sounds weird but unfortunately true. 😦

Have you ever felt lonely in crowd?

Please, don’t ignore this question. We all know that we are living in a world where no one has spare time for others. And infact these days we don’t have time for ourselves, then how can we manage to spend time with others. And this is what leads to that so called SELF PROCLAIMED LONELINESS. We all have a routine, we all are busy, we all don’t have leisure time. And when other people complaint that we don’t give them time then we simply put our busy schedule before them. But, if the same thing happens to us we feel like we are the most unwanted people of the world. Initially we try to get adjusted but when we see that no one is noticing our presence, simply because they are too busy, we attach this self proclaimed loneliness to our life. In the beginning we are not that much involved in this lonely world of ours but gradually with the course of time a strange feeling of left alone and unwanted roots deeply in our hearts. It feels like no one cares for us and no one bothers whether we live or die. Consequently, we start ignoring crowd, we prefer sitting alone, living a lonely life, keep thinking for hours and looking at void.

Did anyone force us to choose such a lonely life? Did anyone throw us out from the society? Did anyone declare us unwanted? No, no one ever did that. Then what in the world pushed us in that dark world of loneliness? It were we my friend. Yes, we were the culprit here. We forgot that some days are bad, some are good, some are crowded and some are lonely. And we simply assumed that this world no more needed us. Well, this can happen to anyone. And nobody is an exception here, including me. But why let our loneliness consume us? Just think once if no one ever says that you are needed then does it prove that you are unwanted. No my friend, not at all.

So, next time when you feel like ignored and unwanted, keep remembering,
“No one in this world is unwanted, because if it would have been so, then why the almighty would have created him/her?” 🙂

Spreading Smiles :-)

The most beautiful line i have ever read about smile is,”Smile is the most sexiest curve of human body.” I literally believe that smile actually is the most sexiest curve of our body and we shouldn’t feel shy in flaunting it. Have you ever wonder what charisma or talisman a smile can create? How it can rejuvenate our dieing souls? Perhaps sometimes you might have thought about it. If not yet, then do it now.

We are living in the modern era where no one has got spare time for someone else. But, have you noticed that giving a few seconds smile to someone actually costs you nothing? Remember when you were crossing a road and you met a cute baby and gave a smile to him/her. Now remeber when you helped an old fellow trying to cross the road and in return he/she gave you a sweet smile. Did you feel something? Did you find the real happiness? Well, you did. You did find something very different and awesome. Something valuable than diamond. Something interesting than interest itself. What you did to feel such things? You simply spread smiles. And spreading smiles actually costs nothing.

I myself have observed it many times that whenever i give a smile to someone, it just adds something good to my life too. May be a blessing or a moment of happiness or a moment of life. But it do add. So, basically spreading smiles means spreading happiness. I don’t know whether you have tried it yet or not. But, i assure you that as two positives always make another positive in the same way two smiles also make another smile and ultimately the resultant would be a big smile on the face of humanity.

So, friends carry on spreading smiles. May be some day your own smile will come back to you multiplied with thousands of smiles.
Keep smiling. 🙂 🙂 🙂

Say “YES” to “NO”

Some titles are catchy, some are attractive, some are interesting and some are weird. Here, you are free to categorize the above given title in your own way. Whichever category you choose it won’t affect the relevance of the title. Okay, let’s move ahead and look into the meaning of this title. The title says Say YES to NO. In simple words it explains that one should say yes to no. What’s that mean? How can one say YES to NO? And afterall what’s the need to do that?

Without any distraction i am coming straight to my point. We all must have faced situations in our lives when someone, whether close one or known one, would definitely have asked us to do some or other thing for him/her. And without any doubt we would have said yes because saying no isn’t considered as a good gesture you know 😛 . Okay, we are social, we live in society and being humans itself means tit for tat works here. So, you said yes always. No matter you wanted to do that work or not, no matter that work was within your reach or not, no matter your rationale allowed you to do that work or not. But being a social animal, you simply followed the society. And you said yes. Let me ask one question here? Were you always ready for such a YES? Did it ever come in your mind that you were forced actually and you wanted to say NO? If such feelings have ever arose somewhere in your heart, then my friend why didn’t you let them come over surface? And why you kept them hidden beneath that fake smile which you had to put always on your face? Was it so difficult to utter a NO? Ofcourse not. But……………

But…But…But…the whole Social Web which covers you completely persuaded you every time to give a positive reply. And the poor fellow inside you who wanted to say no, said yes. Oh…what a pity. And this didn’t end here. Once you said yes, you said it forever. And then there is no stopping. What you are left with is a Regret. You keep blaming the day when that first yes was uttered from your mouth. But, nothing can be done now. Time once gone, never comes back. But, imagine if you would have said no to such wrong demands in the very beginning, then the whole picture would have been different.

Well, i am not saying, say no to every demand of others. No, i actually don’t mean that. What i wanna write is say no to all those wrong demands which your close and known ones make and which your social behaviour force you to accept.

Rest, you yourself are the master of your own decisions. But, make sure that this mastry should not be questioned. 🙂

Don’t bring your Office at Home

You might have heard people saying that one should not mix professional life with personal one. Well, i totally agree with it. One is not supposed to bring his/her office at home. Because, actually no one in the house is interested in that shitty gossip of office. Well, i am not saying this. This is what people keep believing. And when their own turn comes they forget this same rule that none should mix professional life with personal one.
Here, i am not complaining why people expect such things from others when they themselves don’t do those things. I am just putting a point that if you won’t discuss your office at home then tell me when and how will you release that burden which has entered into your small little head. Whenever someone join an office, initially everyone is interested in the office gossips but soon each and every member of family gets irritated. Even the person is forbidden to talk about office at home. I know talking a lot about office is not a good habit. But, have you ever thought that if someday something very bad happens with someone at the office and if that person is forbidden to discuss the office at home then what is he/she expected to do? What is the right thing to be done then? He or she should keep that stress to himself or herself? What if this stress someday forces him/her to take a wrong step, may be suicide? Do you have any answer for that?
I know talking a lot about office, back biting and keeping a complaining behaviour isn’t considered healthy but what’s a big deal if a small little discussion can relieve someone from stress or tension? I don’t think there is any problem in doing so. Well, it will actually add to the relaxation of the person.
So, my friend if next time someone wanna discuss his/her day at office with you then don’t ignore him/her totally and make sure that the discussion isn’t back biting rather it should be healthy one.

Fake Smiles :-)

Living in this world and that too perfectly has always been a dream for everyone. You are born, you grow up, time moves on, life changes, but in all the circumstances you are expected to put a sweet smile 🙂 on your face. Though smiling isn’t a bad thing at all. Well, actually it is said that who keeps smiling always lives a healthy and beautiful life. But, what if these smiles are fake and not genuine ones?
You all might have come across such situations in your life when you had to put a fake smile on your face. In your childhood when one of your classmates, whom you disliked a lot, had to sit beside you and you had to give him/her a fake smile just to hide that feeling of dislike. Or in your college, when you had to give a fake smile to someone who was the love interest of your crush 😉 . Perhaps, someday in your office, you might have given such a fake smile to your boss too, though deep inside your heart♥ you were having a hard core feeling to punch his/her face 😛 . Or may be some other day someone would have made fun of your habits and instead of kicking his/her ass 😛 you again pasted a fake smile in response. This list, I think, won’t end perhaps.
So, what i’m pointing here is that we all have become experts in the field of fake smiles 🙂 . We all are indulged in this dirty business here. And if i’m not wrong then there is no escape you know. But, sometimes it would be better for us if these fake smiles turned into genuine and real ones. I am not sure whether such smiles are easy to grab or not but I thing trying is the best word i can write here. So, next time make sure that the count of fake smiles doesn’t grow and those of genuine ones doesn’t fall. And until and unless you aren’t caught again in such a situation to put a fake smile on your face, I recommend you to smile from your heart♥.
Keep smiling 🙂

Bold isn’t Beautiful always…

“Bold is beautiful.” We all have heard this line many a times. Whether you are smart or not but if you are bold enough to stand alone then it automatically adds to your beauty. Well, i am not saying this, this is what believes our so called society. And this famous tag line is seen in context with women most of the time. Women, today have achieved a sufficient, if not enough, space in men’s society. I don’t know whether people know the exact meaning of boldness or not but if a woman is standing alone in men’s queue and asks for condom, then they definitely see it as her boldness. 😛
For many of us if a woman is bold then that simply means she minds nothing. She doesn’t mind if a man force her to shake hand, she doesn’t mind if a man forcefully hug her, she doesn’t mind if a man touch her awkwardly if she is wearing a short dress. Well, why should she mind? Afterall she is bold and being bold means she has allowed everyone to percept that she has no problem with any misbehavior. I ask all the women is it what you thought to be the meaning of being bold? I know your answer will be ‘No’. Mine too is. But, don’t you think our society takes our boldness in the same manner as i discussed above?
I definitely would love to put some examples here to clear my point. See at her workplace if a woman is frank, she is bold and talks with her male colleagues, then what people think of her is,”Oh, she is that kinda lady you know, frank with every men, always craving for men’s company blah blah blah…” Simply a lot of false allegations plus the character assassination comes free with all these rubbish things. And unfortunately if she comes to know about all this bullshit, god knows how she tackles with it. In short, she pays for being bold.
Well, if this is what a woman gets being bold then where lies the beauty? So next time guys if you see a woman talking to a man, sitting with her male counterparts, having fun with her colleagues, then before assassinating her character do remember this –

As not every man is a dog…in the same way not every bold woman is a b****… 😛